So I found out that one of my fave former church siblings is dead.
And I want to complain about it.
Not because she’s dead, but in consequence of how she was treated before she died.
Now, she had mental health problems, and she was forever going back to her doc to get her meds adjusted. She started feeling poorly (she was well into her 60s); tired, digestive upsets, dizziness. They adjusted her medication.
She ended up in hospital, and while she was there they found out she had stage 4 lung cancer. They sent her home and she died four days later.
F*ck you you *sshole who didn’t check her physical status. You’re a f*cking stain on medicine and I’d stake you to a f*cking anthill in the noonday sun if I had a chance. You decided that a mentally ill woman, a beautiful, sweet, hard working bundle of awesome, was having mental health problems INSTEAD of physical problems and you didn’t even so much as give her a proper workup.
She was ANGRY BEFORE SHE DIED. She’d been totally f*cked over by the medical establishment.
SO. I know for a fact I have mental health problems, many people do. I don’t take prescription medication because I’m one of those awkward people who hates the seven zillion side effects more than the cognitive relief I might get. And did get, for the four months (WHICH COMPLETELY F*CKED ME UP WITH SIDE EFFECTS) I was taking Prozac. Wellbutrin triggered dissociation and the desire to pick up knives and sink them in my family members, which thank the little fishies went away as soon as I stopped taking it.
And because I don’t go to church anymore I couldn’t go to her funeral, and because everybody assumes I’m connected to the church on facebook nobody called me.
I’m okay with that. I’m not okay how this beautiful person was treated. Misogyny (oh she’s always complaining about her meds like old biddies do) and ableism (who cares, she’s anxious) KILL WOMEN.
The world can really suck sometimes.
I will remember you, church sibling, as a lover of beauty and a faithful servant of our community. And a super sweet lady. God damn it.