SO, who is my model not model but yes model for Slider? but no I actually wrote Slider before I knew about Radam. On Instagram @radamridwan on twitter @radamridwan – a writer, a model, a legend, and although Slider is a little more academic and a lot less colourful and more comfort oriented (and more into bodily modesty ha ha), when I think about a fabulous non binary transgender person with more attitude than one can pack in a steamer trunk….. they’re the them.

Follow Friday

Please check out the life and work of @LionessElise on twitter, Elise Matthesen IRL, LionessElise on Etsy, and here’s her Wikipedia article.

I love her jewellery, and gave some to Tammy this past year.

She is a longtime advocate of bisexual rights and she’s supremely witty and humane and competent, like a Dunnett character or somesuch. Just awesome. When I was a budding anarchist in Toronto, Catherine used to recount her exploits and I’d listen with fascinated wonder.

The clown we’re going to run out of town

All I can see is a smokin’ hole
an’ I can only see that
cause all the shit you stole
You’re gonna have to move out and take the sign down
Too bad that all of your friends get paid to stick around

You’re the clown
we’re gonna run out of town x2

Shoulda listened to Sarah* in 2016
she was right on the money
and her instincts were keen
Think of the world of hurt you could have saved
the way you came to power
was obscene and depraved

You’re the clown
we’re gonna run out of town x2

written December 2020, more verses probably coming, hoping I recorded this on January 4th lol.

*Sarah Kendzior, who predicted 85% of what 45 would do in office years before he did it, and is still among the top ten political commentators in English in the US (please subscribe to Gaslit Nation if you can or donate to her Patreon.) AND SHE’S SO YOUNG! she’s only 42, with a young family…. and yes, I’m combining song of the day with Follow Friday.

2021 – the year of living ancestorily

So for 2021, this blog is going to change up a bit. There will be at least one drafted post that goes live every day. (I’ve started pre-posting awready.)  The hope is that I will put together useful or historical facts or just … information that’s easy to find arranged by subject PLUS post a song every day.

Now this involves many different KINDS of posts; some will be PDF’s, some MP3s, some videos, but there will be a song a day. I thought about posting it to youtube, but…. it’s a toxic waste dump that I have virtually no control over. And yes, some of the song posts will be from previous posts, but there will be a particular category: Song a Day 2021

And then, if I have the energy, I’ll write about laundry and cooking and grandson goo and boring domestic shit and progress on my writing projects – that none care about but me.

The point is that I am going to highlight my lifetime of achievement because I’m tired of always thinking to myself that I haven’t accomplished anything in my life. Taken all together, why yes I have. I was autistic and had ADD and mental health issues the whole time, too.

I’m considering password protecting my content or at least some of it, and I’m considering moving the blog to a VPS, after non-definitive discussion with Jeff.

I’m also thinking about money and immortality, a lot, but it’s nothing bad. I just want to eat steak for a thousand years while I drink beer and write nasty shit about misogynist slurs like Jordan Peterson.

By the way mOm the cat poets are Lu You and Liu Zhongyin

Not going outside


Raised by narcissists

Raisedbynarcissists is a subreddit, which means you have to go to reddit. I’m not providing the link because while I visit the site regularly, I have a good reason not to push them more traffic. I consulted this subreddit a lot when I was trying to construct female characters who had zero empathy for their children. Although I don’t meet the diagnostic criteria for narcissism (sorry, you want to get some on me, you’ll have find cause) I relived some moments from my childrearing days rather intensely and certain events resonate differently in recollection.

If you’ve always had a good relationship with your family, except the occasional tiresome display of illness or nerves or ‘the cranky’ then I recommend you just grab a couple of posts and start reading. Maybe you don’t care to know how bad other people have it. For me, it was revelatory, and it has since helped me understand how my children can have such deeply canyonated views on me, and how keeping families together falls on everybody in a functioning family and on people pleasers in one that is… not. Not functioning. Anyway, I recommend it, if you have a nice family it will TOTALLY REMIND YOU WHY AND if you have a terrible family you’ll get sympathy and good advice.